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Thursday, 14 January 2016 |

 
Hi

So, let me set the scene - I'm sat in my chair, getting cosy, sipping my drink, rip open my wedding magazine ready to fill my head with ideas and then bam, from in between the magazine and free planner falls a sample of a lighter life shake. 

 

I'm sat there in disbelief and shock, an actual diet product is sat in my lap. Why oh why assume that every woman wants to lose weight for their wedding? Not all of us do. I've already been struggling with thoughts in my head about losing weight for our wedding, the pressure of people asking 'when are you going to start the diet?', the lack of plus size wedding dress choices and not one plus size bridal magazine makes me feel like an oddball when I shouldn't. January diet pressure coming into full force one again, you can't really get away from it at this time of year, adverts in amongst your favourite TV shows, in all the trashy magazines. I'm not against people wanting to lose weight, you do whatever makes you happy but I don't think companies realise the effect it has on people when it's in you face day in, day out.

The place where I am currently at with my body image is the best it's been in a long time, it's taken me over 15 years to get here. Years of dieting left me with such a negative feeling towards my body to the point where I was constantly comparing myself to my slimmer friends, I never thought I would find someone to love me because I wasn't as slim as them or that I would never be happy because I wasn't slim. Wrong! You can be fat and happy because you get to a point where you realise that being fat won't stop you from living the life that you want. 

So, where does this leave me now? Well, with little faith in the wedding industry, I mean one packet of lighter life now but who knows what it will be in the further, a blow up gym and a personal trainer in the middle of the mag, nah not for me thanks. If a woman want to lose weight let them make the choice - don't force it upon them!!

What are your thoughts on this? Did you feel pressured to lose weight for your wedding? 

Much love
Natalie 

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3 comments

  1. Ugh, how vile and presumptuous. Is nowhere free of diet bollocks in January? Good luck with the wedding planning though! xx

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  2. Great post! I had the same thoughts before my wedding, I felt like a "had to" lose weight because that's what the wedding industry keeps telling us. But I didn't lose any weight - in fact I think I might have gained a kilo or two - and I felt and looked absolutely beautiful on my wedding day. To be honest I think planning a wedding is stressful enough as it is (although of course if someone wants to lose weight before their big day it's absolutely fine as well). I think the main thing to remember is that it's YOUR day; you shouldn't feel pressured to do anything others - the wedding industry, magazines or nosy relatives - want you to do. Just follow your heart and do the things that make you guys feel good, and it'll be an amazing day.

    Good luck with the planning! And remember to enjoy it - time goes by way too quickly! :) xx

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  3. Gorgeous bride magazine is a UK plus size bridal magazine. I only found out about it as Georgina Horne/Cox posted about it.

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